Inside Out (Theatrical)
Inside Out (1-Disc DVD)
When we are born, headquarters is composed of one emotional control button, happiness Joy (yellow) . . . for 33 seconds.
Then Sadness (blue) informs discomfort (hunger, being wet).
Then Disgust (green) broccoli.
Then Anger (red) with volcanic brain eruptions blotting out reason, and breaking a few objects in the process, and throwing a few items down on the floor. Mr Rogers says throwing things down is to experiment with personal control of together and separate.
Won't You Be My Neighbor? Even Mr Rogers becomes angry when he notices people trying to hurt children, but he uses his anger constructively to resolve problems, and find solutions together with other grownups who reassure children "always look for the helpers. There are always people trying to help."
Fear (purple panic) keeps us safe from scary things. Sometimes scary things are not threatening, sometimes they are imaginary, sometimes they are really dangerous (like electrical cords).
When we are small and vulnerable, we know we cannot survive unless there are dependable grownups around who love us (imperfectly) and take care of us, house, feed and diaper us, eventually guide us through school and puberty (middle school yechh) and help us navigate responsibility, making mistakes, learning, apologizing, forgiving and loss.
Mistakes Were Made (But Not by Me): Why We Justify Foolish Beliefs, Bad Decisions, and Hurtful Acts Tavris & Aronson
The Miraculous Journey of Edward Tulane Kate DiCamillo growing up from egocentricity to caring and sacrifice enroute to love by a toy bunny.
Parents are not always perfectly attuned to us. They may have their own problems which absorb them.
The Judge (2014) Robert Duvall, Robert Downey Jr, Vincent D'Onofrio, Vera Farmiga
talking with a 5 year old about divorce: It happened to my friend Megan, I just never thought it would happen to me.
And what we think we have said is not always what was heard.
Dad thinks: avoided a disaster.
Mom thinks: well that was a disaster.
Riley teaches her parents that she cannot always pretend to be happy when she is not.
Sadness (blue) is an essential part of maturation due to change, loss, adaptation to life's vagaries.
Even Joy (yellow) learns that without Sadness (blue) to point out truth honestly, we cannot truly grow ourselves up.
Being an authentic grown up ourselves is accepting responsibility for not always being happy, and learning to cope with difficult uncomfortable yet real happenings.
Up (Single-Disc Edition) chosen by Assisted Living residents as the before lunch movie for discussion and insights over shared bread.
Losing a hockey goal seems like the end of the world. But the love of the grownups in our lives, and our friends, help us get through tough times. And as we age, getting through tough times gets tougher.
Departures Oscar Best Foreign film English subtitles, abandoned age 6, growing up trying to please an absent parent, losing job, spouse exits, cobbling together a surrogate family of mentor employer and nurturing bath house owner, learning ritual meditation, finally learning forgiveness.
Inside Out is 5* for reminding us that we each have memories (bowling balls) which are sucked away by Forgetters as we age, and some memories that stick in the head forever (chewing gum song) for reasons that escape us.
Sometimes we have to let go of cherished memories (imaginary friends like Bing Bong) in order to grow ourselves up to face more mature tasks beyond ego (making the hockey team, boys) and shaping our personal character (telling mom and dad the truth that we miss Minnesota and we can't be their happy girl all the time because we have our own feelings, separate from theirs, that we feel about things).
Highly recommended for entire families, especially grandparents, to watch with the commentary subtitles on and the audio-commentary by the co-directors, cinematographer, to help us guide our families with wisdom and compassion through tough times.